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Wednesday, October 1, 2008

OH THE JOYS OF MOTHERHOOD



I know all mothers can relate to the non stop messes, laundry and picking cheerios out of the carpet. How my front room has turned into a brightly colored toy room with lively cartoons blaring. I'm astounded when I find myself singing along to the children's shows and I know all the words!

It is a non stop process of giving and giving and giving.


I am so much more appreciative of my parents who happened to have seven children right in a row. I am constantly asking my dear mother how she managed all of us but what it all comes down to is mothers just do, it's in our nature and we get good at it too!


At the end of the day I am beat but I know that I have one of the most important roles on Earth and that is to be a mother. I thank God daily for my three little blessings and it is a joy to have the opportunity of motherhood!

Jabez and his blueberry hand print on the back of his head...gotta love it!
Classic bath in the sink photo.
Getting into mischief...I am considering purchasing random household items for Jabez first birthday, he seems to like them much more!

Such a goofball!


A story about mothers

It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken to the store. Inside I'm thinking, "Can't you see I'm on the phone?"
Obviously not; no one can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see me at all. I'm invisible. The invisible Mom.

Some days I am only a pair of hands,

nothing more:

Can you fix this?

Can you tie this?

Can you open this?

Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being.


I'm a clock to ask, "What time is it?"

I'm a satellite guide to answer, "What number is the Disney Channel?"


I'm a car to order, "Right around 5:30, please."

I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes
that studied history and the mind that graduated summa cum laude - but now they had disappeared into the peanut butter, never to be seen again.

She's going, she's going, she's gone!


One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from England.

Janice had just gotten back from a fabulous
trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself as I looked down at my out-of-style dress; it was the only thing I could find that was clean. My unwashed hair was pulled up in a hair clip and I was afraid I could actually smell peanut butter in it. I was feeling pretty pathetic when Janice turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, "I brought you this." It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe. I wasn't exactly sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription:

"To Charlotte, with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees."

In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book. And I would discover what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I could pattern my work:

No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record of their names.
These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished. They made great sacrifices and expected no credit. The passion of their building was fueled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything.

A legendary story in the book told of
a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man, "Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that will be covered by the roof? No one will ever see it." And the workman replied, "Because God sees."

I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost as if I heard God whispering to me,
"I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does. No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn on, no cupcake you've baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over. You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see right now what it will become."

At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction. But it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride. I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work on something that their name will never be on.

The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime because there are so few people willing
to sacrifice to that degree. When I really think about it, I don't want my son to tell the friend he's bringing home from college for Thanksgiving , "My mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies and then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and presses all the linens for the table.

"That would mean I'd built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home and then if there is anything more to
say to his friend, to add, "You're gonna love it there."

As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're doing it right. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we have built but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women.

Great Job, MOM!




3 comments:

Christa said...

Im so happy you are blogging now! I love it!

Roslyn said...

Hi Leah! Found your blog from Christa. Great post...I'm crying right now.:) I have read that story about mothers before and cried the first time too...it helps remind me why I do what I do and that it doesn't matter if the house is messy and I haven't washed my hair for days, what matters is that my children are well and happy. Thanks for reminding me of that again!!! Keep blogging!!!

Christa said...

Happy Birthday SIS! I love you!